“It’s huge when we are able to open our minds, let our walls soften and allow ourselves and our partners to feel comfortable and trusting about who they are and how they feel. To validate our spouse is an easy expression of love and imperative when building trust. Your marriage is a sacred relationship and should be treated as such! Making each other priority will ensure your “next level,” relationship.”
I thoroughly enjoy working with couples who have been married for years, but are in need of a “tune up.” 💫
In life, most of us look at the world through the same lens – for years. And we often do the same in our marriages 👀Many of us might feel “tired” in our marriages or stuck in a “rut;” not knowing how to shift out of this place. Am I talking to you and your partner? This is the perfect time to shift your view of what you both want for your relationship 🙂 This is the perfect time to really focus on how you want your relationship to look, but most importantly, how you both want to feel in your relationship 🙂
My role when working with couples, is to help them communicate effectively 🗣so they both feel they are being heard and validated. Once the comfort level is strong, partners often realize feelings that have gone unexpressed for a long time. I encourage both parties to take ownership of the “deposits and withdrawals” that they’ve made in their marriage. All while doing their best to put their ego aside for this honest conversation.
It’s huge when we are able to open our minds 💭 let our walls soften and allow ourselves and our partners to feel comfortable and trusting about who they are and how they feel. To validate our spouse is an easy expression of love and is imperative when building trust. Your marriage is a sacred relationship and should be treated as such! 🙏 Making each other priority will ensure your “next level,” relationship 🌟
👉 What do you like or love about your partnership? It’s important to realize what is already working for both of you. If you don’t feel as though anything is working…that’s okay too. Out with the old, in with the new, and begin anew! 🌱
👉 The other side of what is working, is what is not. So, what have you guys outgrown or are challenged by within your marriage? 🤔Below is a mental checklist of what to keep in mind individually, in order for your personal shifting to occur:
Presence – When talking with your partner. Put aside your phone, the tv, your book, etc.
Permission – Mentally give you, your partner and your relationship permission to change ✨It’s okay to do things differently, this is the only way to get a different result.
Fearlessness – It takes bravery to look at what is not working for us in our lives. For myself, a relationship can truly bring up past and present fears. Keep in mind that your fear is that “protector” part of you. What can you do to help YOU let your guard down? 🛡
Open Mind – New ways of sharing and being together, even if it’s not comfortable for you. And know that everything new can feel strange in the beginning 🌷
Forgiveness – The willingness to let go. True forgiveness and acceptance is where you will find trust and vulnerability in your relationship 🙌
Expectation – Drop the expectation for yourself and your partner! Having expectations and attachments to outcomes, sets us up for operating from a loss/lack mentality. Thus always leading us to disappointment.
Allowing – Surrendering to ‘what is’ can help us move mountains in our lives 🏔
Relationships are a learning arena! We learn so much about ourselves through relationships and marriage. If you get angry or stuck, ask yourself: “What would love do right now?” 💗 This automatically connects us with our higher/more evolved selves. Keep in mind, we are all doing the best we are able to 😇
Whatever is happening right now is okay! Know that things can change, and that there is no right or wrong. We all have learning opportunities in front of us. Be willing to change and ‘go with the flow,’ in order for this new level of your marriage to come into being. 😊🌅