Hello couples!
How are you feeling in your relationship? Remember–> our relationship with ourselves is the foundation for ALL of our relationships.
This week, we’re focusing on our feelings towards our relationship with our significant other.
So for right now, I want you to take a deep breath and really envision your relationship. What initially comes to mind when you think about the relationship you’re in? And what comes to mind when you first think about your partner?
Today, I want to walk you through a great journaling activity that will give you a better understanding of how you view your relationship and the areas that YOU yourself can improve upon for a greater experience all around.
First grab a pen and journal and find a quiet space to really allow yourself to think and feel. I want you to pretend like your journal is your best friend or someone who you can trust in when speaking your truth.
The following are questions that I invite you to journal about in the most honest and real way you can – when we come from a place of honesty, the biggest and best changes can be made for forward progress.
Take some time with these questions and jot down your initial thoughts and feelings:
- What do you think about your relationship?
- How do you feel being in your relationship now?
- How do you feel about these immediate thoughts and feelings?
- If you were your own best friend in this situation, what advice might you give to you? What important perspectives might you offer you?
- What are 3 things that need to happen in order for YOU to feel better in your relationship?
- What are 3 things that need to happen in order for your relationship to be more fulfilling?
You don’t need to stop at the last question, be sure to write down anything else that’s coming to mind or coming up feeling wise for you. Make sure you feel complete in your journaling process before reading on.
So, where is your focus now? Were you able to have some bigger realizations and deeper understandings about how you feel and what may need to change?
Additionally I want you to consider this → are you more focused on what needs to change about your partner than what needs to change within you? Are you seeing the bad more than the good at this time in your relationship?
Where our focus goes in our relationship, will dictate our experience.
It’s very easy for us to dwell on the negative, especially when we are in a situation that’s really not fulfilling for us. But this won’t help us progress towards being happier in our lives and relationships.
It’s important for us to begin shifting our experience by accepting that there is no one else to blame. We often think that some external factor is the cause of our discontent or unhappiness, and so we blame someone else or some other thing for the way we feel.
By realizing we have a choice in how we feel in every moment, we can reclaim our personal power and accept self-responsibility.
This week, tap into how you are really feeling in your relationship, and how forward progression with your partner can start with YOU.
Love to you all,
Kimberley 💜