Hello again friends!
Last week, we talked about our feelings towards ourselves. Remember: Our relationship with ourselves is the foundation for all other relationships.
This week, we’re focusing on our feelings towards our relationship with our significant other.
Take some time to work on this activity this week. It’ll give you a better understanding of how you view your relationship and the areas that YOU yourself can improve.
Start here. Envision your relationship. Now picture your best friend. Pretend that she or he replaces you in your current relationship. Now, if you were talking to your best friend about their relationship…
- What do you immediately think about the relationship?
- How do you feel about those things?
- What advice might you give to your friend?
- What important perspective might you offer them?
- How does it feel to take this outsider view of your own relationship?
Take some time to think about the questions in a quiet space or grab a journal and jot down your initial thoughts.
Where did your focus drift? Did you think about the positive or negative aspects of your relationship or your partner? Are you focused on what you’d like to change about them or about you? Do you see the good more than the bad?
Where our focus goes in a relationship dictates our experience.
As humans, our default is to dwell on the negative. It’s instinctual and built into our biology. However, it’s always possible to overcome our negativity bias!
We can begin shifting our experience by accepting that there is no one else to blame. We think that some external factor is the cause of our discontent or potential unhappiness. We blame someone else or some other thing for the way we feel.
By realizing we have a choice in every single moment, we can reclaim our personal power and accept self-responsibility.
This week, try to see the areas of life where you may be passing your responsibility off to another person, thing, or circumstance, particularly in your relationship with your significant other. Try to give more than you’re taking from the relationship.
Have a great week,
Kimberley Bell